Posted by
Peter and Helen Evans on Monday, November 27, 2006 12:41:47 PM
"In a fallen or broken world our lives are disordered,
our emotional lives are disordered, even our sexuality is
disordered. This should not be a big surprise to anyone who
understands that this is, in fact, a fallen world." James
Tonkowich, Pres. I.R.D.
Peter: Before we get to the questions, could we start out with your background as a prelude?
Jim: I'm currently President of the Institute on Religion and
Democracy. Prior to this I was managing editor at BreakPoint for
Chuck Colson; 520 words every day without fail. I worked with
some great writers. Chuck has three staff writers who are just
terrific. Also, that included the website, Breakpoint.org and the
BreakPoint Worldview Magazine. I developed the curriculum for the
Centurions Program and worked on the worldview curriculum for teenagers
called Rewired. We did a great job with that with Teen
Mania. Chuck kept me busy.
Helen: What sort of academic credentials do you have?
Jim: I have a BA in philosophy from Bates College in Maine, a
Master of Divinity and a Doctor of Ministry from Gorton Theological
Seminary north of Boston. I am also an ordained Minister of the
Presbyterian Church in America. I pastored a Church out in
Silicon Valley and prior to that I was involved in youth ministry as
part of FOCUS, Fellowship of Christians in Universities and
Schools. I ministered in prep schools.
Helen: The purpose of this interview is basically
myth-busting. We'd like to get the message out that the Christian
Church does not hate homosexuals. There are so many half truths
and downright deceits. We'd like to make clear what is Christian
and what is not Christian about the Church's true stand on
homosexuality. Just about all of us have friends, acquaintances
or people we deal with everyday who we'd like to read this and realize
that the Church loves them.
Peter: Let's start out with the foremost concept that intimidates
people from addressing this issue. That is Christ's admonition,
"Judge not, lest ye be judged." It would be hard to count the
number of times we hear, "oh, that's so judgmental." People are afraid
to condemn a behavior that they feel is immoral because they think they
are breaking a commandment. Help us to understand this
concept better, please.
Jim: Sure, I'll come at it in two different ways. One is
the natural law or common sense approach and the other is the Biblical
approach. The common sense approach is that we shouldn't judge
other people. No one - but no one - believes that is true.
When I was at college, I had one particular philosophy professor who
was Jewish. Some sophomore (whence we get the word 'sophomoric')
would come in with a new concept for how morality ought to work.
Our professor would look at this 'new' view of morality and would look
at the student and say, "Based on what you say, does your scheme let
Hitler off the hook and, if so, is that OK with you, because it's not
OK with me." Now, we all realize the student was just trying out
a scheme whereby he could justify taking drugs and premarital sex with
his girlfriend, but when the question about Hitler was put to him, he
realizes killing millions of people is wrong and that's judging.
Look at poor Congressman Foley. He got hammered by just
about everyone, and rightly so. Aren't we judging? Even if
we're only judging out of political expediency, we're nevertheless
judging.
Everybody makes judgements. Everyone has some kind of
morality. People who have no morality - who think child
molestation or cannibalism is OK - well, we put those people
away. Those are sociopaths. So no one believes that
they should never make judgements.
Now, in regard to the Bible, the same Jesus who said "do not judge"
certainly condemned the legalism of the Pharisees, certainly condemned
the hypocrisy of the Sadducees. He had plenty to say in judgment
of all sorts of things. Also, in fact, he said he would come
again "in judgment." We have, on the one hand, all sorts of
things about Grace in St. Paul's letter to the Galatians, yet, at the
same time, he has all sorts of rules about how Christians are to
behave, and what a virtuous, good life looks like.
Helen: Many people will say it's all right for Jesus to judge, but not for us to judge.
Jim: But we all do judge, we judge constantly.
Peter: Does that mean we're all sinning whenever we judge?
Or is that conclusion just a misunderstanding of what Jesus meant when
he said "judge not"?
Jim: It's a misunderstanding. There is a difference in the
meaning of the words; let's take 'condemning.' There is a
difference between making judgements and condemning people. Let's
look at the guy who shows up in places where the press can get a good
picture of him. He's standing there with a poster that says God
hates fags. Well, that's simply not true. The final
judgment is in God's hands, but we make moral judgements all the
time. There is nothing wrong with that. In fact, there is
everything right with that.
Helen: If you were one of those who tell us not to judge, all I
would have to do is grab your wallet and I bet you'd judge me very
quickly.
Jim: Of course, and rightly so. The question is a spin off
of a phrase I believe someone invented in the 60's that says "you can't
legislate morality." In fact, the only thing that you can
legislate is morality. We drive on the right side of the
road. Why? Because we believe it is morally wrong to have
chaos on the roads where people might get hurt and killed. We
believe that's morally wrong, therefore we set up traffic laws.
Something as trivial as traffic law is legislating morality. We
believe randomly killing people is a 'bad' thing. We make all
sorts of moral judgments in our legal code. The notion that we
are creating arbitrary rules just doesn't hold up.
Peter: You're talking about the rationalization of people who
happen to object to those particular rules; they condemn the rules as
just 'arbitrary.' That's easier than actually making a reasoned
argument against a particular rule.
Helen: That's moving us to the next question. God says to
love our neighbor - we're not to hate our neighbor. Shouldn't God
be in charge of condemning or judging, not us? And if so how can
we speak out against homosexuality?
Jim: The question is, what does it mean to love your
neighbor? Loving my neighbor means and includes looking out for
the good of my neighbor. I'm reading Jonathan Edwards' "Charity
and its Fruits." Edwards points out that love your neighbor is
sort of an Old Testament way of looking at things. What Jesus
said was, "Love one another as I have loved you." Jesus raises
the stakes even higher. To love your neighbor the way Jesus
loved, means not to leave your neighbor in a dangerous or harmful
position. So, if my neighbor has a charcoal grill burning in his
kitchen, I need to say something. I'd have to say, "this is so
dangerous you could burn your house down." It's my responsibility
to warn my neighbor when he's in danger. To love means to look
after other people.
Helen: Love doesn't mean you'll turn a blind eye to any bad
behavior that gives someone pleasure even though it might be bad for
them, say, staying out all night drinking or doing drugs. Love
means what will be good for your soul, not hedonistic pleasures.
Peter: And that love is not always easy. It means looking out for
what's good for my neighbor when what's easier for me may be to ignore
him or even agree with him.
Helen: We don't have to limit this to homosexual behavior.
We can talk about lying or cheating or stealing or homosexual behavior
and it's all bad for us or our neighbor. The Church does not
single out homosexuality. There are a vast number of things that
are harmful to us - they are called sins.
Jim: Yes, there are two interesting articles that have come out
recently. One is in the Spectator written by a homosexual man who
is in the theatre. He wrote that he thought these were supposed
to be the 'good times' for him - this is supposed to be great
stuff, but we're all miserable. The other article was in the New
Oxford Review in February, written by a gay man who had been in that
lifestyle for 35 years. He was also a Christian. His story
was similar in that he said he's found nothing but misery in that
lifestyle. There is a high degree is drinking, drug use, suicide and
domestic violence within same sex relationships and that lifestyle; not
to mention the health risks run by gay men and lesbians. The data
was in a report from Canada. The results were just
horrifying. These stories and reports say that this lifestyle is
very unhealthy - both emotionally and physically. So, love for
one's neighbor means telling them about this.
Helen: So the Church doesn't condemn the person, but the
behavior. We can always change our behavior, whether we were born
a certain way or not. It's also interesting that you brought up a
story about a man who was both gay and Christian. He's not much
different than all of us, since we're all sinners.
Jim: Absolutely! That's something that needs to be brought
up. I think this is where the Church needs to do a better
job. We need to be very clear that sin is sin. We, as
human beings, want to see some sins as worse than others.
Helen: Such as the deepening circles of hell in Dante's Inferno?
Jim: Well, there is something to his understanding that sin is
progressive and it grow worse and worse. I think there is
something to that. What I was getting at is that there are some
people in the Church who want to condemn homosexual behavior but will
wink at divorce, for instance. Or, we go ballistic over same-sex
marriage but we don't think of what we've allowed marriage to
become. We wink at divorce or marriages that don't reflect God's
plan.
God created a three-legged stool; marriage between a man and a woman,
sex and children. As long as those three things are kept
together, things are great. It seems to me the way we got here is
that increasingly, the legs are disconnected from one another. We
have sex without marriage, sex without children, we have children
without sex... there is technology for all this. Christians swallowed
in-vitro fertilization hook, line and sinker without giving it proper
reflection. We use the term "reproductive technology" which we
shouldn't. Instead, we should talk about "procreation." We
separate child-rearing from marriage and we separate marriage from
having children. I recently attended a wedding conducted by
people I know and respect and, throughout the whole ceremony, there was
no mention of children. I find that very disturbing. When I
do a wedding ceremony I always mention children and tell the couple
that we expect that they will be having children. I pray for
their children during the ceremony. Sometimes that raises
eyebrows in the crowd.
Peter: You raised the subject of what we have allowed marriage to become and I'm wondering, why do homosexuals want it?
Jim: Well, we have marriage over there, children over here, sex
further over there; so it's a mix-and-match that makes up marriage, and
who's to say it's only couples then? What some people, like
Andrew Sullivan, want to say is that homosexuals just want 'couples'
marriage. But, once you go that far, who is to say where else it
could go? We're talking about polygamy, or why should
incest be forbidden? If marriage is anything you want it to be,
then anything goes.
Helen: Once we change the definition of marriage, of
Christianity, of any word, anything goes. There are no
definitions anymore. C. S. Lewis has a wonderful story on this in
the beginning of his book, "Mere Christianity," where he talks about
how the definition of a gentlemen has changed. Whereas, in the
past it meant certain objective criteria by which to decide whether
someone were, in fact, a gentlemen, now it merely means that you have a
favorable opinion of a fellow. So, when we change the definition
of marriage, we can change the definition of sin.
Peter: Well, we're all sinners and, at least in that, we can
establish solidarity with homosexuals. We can say to them, you're
getting wet from one side and we're getting wet from another; we each
sin in our own way, but we're all the same in that we all sin.
And we're all the same in that we're all to try to sail as close as we
can to the wind and stick to the straight and narrow, to turn away from
our sins. We all have challenges or crosses to bear. That
happens to be yours. I have my own, but we're all struggling.
Jim: There needs to be an understanding of the doctrine of
sin. Part of a recent church service was to recite a part of the
Heidelberg Catechism that talks about our sin and makes it pretty clear
that we are without hope without Christ. "We are caught in our
sins; there is no good thing in us." The pastor said something
about believing that and the woman sitting next to me said quietly, "I
don't believe that." I think she speaks for a lot of
people. I think of the old gospel chorus, "Do Lord, oh do Lord,
oh do remember me." There is a verse there, "I took Jesus for my
savior, you take him too." I get the feeling a lot of people
think, "I took Jesus for my savior, what's the matter with you?"
Not understanding that you took Jesus as your savior because of grace,
and not because you were such a good person to start out with.
Not because you're so smart but because God is so good. As the
Church, we need to keep that in mind. We need to understand that
everyone is saved by grace, which means we should have compassion for
those around us.
Helen: Speaking of the woman who said she didn't believe
there is nothing good in us; there is a new idea out there that we are
perfect. There is even a bumper sticker "God doesn't make junk."
That implies we're perfect in every way and just have to find the way
back to that perfection. We've heard some homosexuals on TV say
that God made me this way, therefore whatever I'm doing must be
OK.
Jim: That's based on the "gay gene" project. That's a modernist project but it's dubious science.
Helen: But when we hear that someone is born with a burden - I
may have been born with deformed legs - that's my cross to bear and to
learn to overcome it whatever way I can.
Jim: Yes, we're born in a world of sin and we all have
certain proclivities. In a fallen or broken world our lives are
disordered, our emotional lives are disordered, even our sexuality is
disordered. This should not be a big surprise to anyone who
understands that this is, in fact, a fallen world.
Helen: There is an idea that it's a perfect world and that we just have to find that perfection.
Jim: Yes, there is a sort of utopianism that drives that idea.
Peter: Even environmentalism reflects that attitude.
Everything is perfect, if only we humans just didn't mess it up.
Perfect harmony and perfect balance is the mantra.
Jim: Yes. Doesn't that mean subsistence farming and dying at age 35?
Helen: So basically do you think it's different world
views? One is that, "this is how God made me so I'm OK doing what
I feel like doing" and the other is the "fallen world" where we must
choose to do right and choose not to be tempted by our sinful desires.
Jim: Yes, and even in the harmonious world view they pick and
choose. There is some evidence that alcoholism and depression may
have some genetic component. However, we don't celebrate the fact
that Uncle Harry is a drunk.
We don't say, "God made him that way, Hallelujah!" We just don't do that, we draw distinctions.
Helen: Let's move on to the idea that "the highest virtue is love, so what does it matter the way it's shown?"
Jim: It's interesting... I've been reading Jonathan Edwards and
I've been reading Dante. I think they would have liked each
other. Dante's "Purgatory" is all about dis-ordered love.
From the Protestant point of view, it's the story of
sanctification. Pride is disordered love. It's love that's
not directed toward God and neighbor. It's self-focused love that
is not right, that's disordered. Yes, it's love, but it's not
loving the right things. Similarly, Edwards recounts in the
"Treatise on Religious Affections" that you might enjoy singing hymns
to worship God, but that doesn't make you a Christian. You may
read the Bible and love to read the Bible, but that doesn't mean you're
a Christian. He goes through one after the other and by the time
you get to the middle of this book, you say to yourself, "are there any
Christians?" Or can we know that we are Christians? Then in the
last half of the book he says that true religion has to do with our
affections; in particular with what we love. So love is not the
highest virtue.
You can love NASCAR. That's nice, but it's not the highest virtue, and
it's not the road to salvation. It may not even be the road to
temporal happiness. You can love cats and we've all seen news
reports of houses where there are 200 sickly cats in a two-bedroom
house. You can even love your children in a way that is
destructive to them. To simply say that, "Love is the highest virtue"
is, well... it's not! Love has to have an object and what that
object is makes all the difference.
Jesus said "love your neighbor as yourself." He said "love God with all your heart, soul and strength."
Peter: That was the greatest commandment. He's saying,
here's love, which is the greatest thing we have and so we have to
direct it to the greatest thing that is, which is God. Once
you've got that connection established and you can see some light, then
you're ready to love your neighbor.
Jim: St. Paul wrote to Timothy and said that love of money is the
root of all evil. It causes all sorts of evil. So, our sin
problem, in the final analysis, is not lying or cheating or stealing or
homo-erotic behavior - our sin problem is that our love is
disordered. Growing in sanctification is God re-ordering what we
love. That can happen for everyone. I mentioned the article
in the New Oxford Review. At the end of that article, the fellow
points out that God never condemns men loving men. That's
ridiculous. The problem is the homo-eroticism that goes along
with it. He points out, as a traditional Catholic, that he has a
very, very close friend who is a male, but they keep their trousers
on. They have a tremendous friendship and that's the way it's
really meant to be.
Peter: I can paraphrase Michael Novak on that. He says God
created us to be his friends, He didn't create us to build big
buildings or make lots of money but He created us to love Him and to
love one another in the same way. And that friendship is another
name for love, and the animating factor for all of creation.
Helen: When we began this project, we got some letters telling us
that to define Christianity is divisive. Why can't we show the
world that Christianity can accept all? What do you think about
defining Christianity?
Jim: Defining anything is divisive. We're constantly in the
process of making definitions and it's a divisive action. It's
not a wrong thing to do, we do it all the time. One way or
another you are going to define Christianity. What I think those
people are really saying is, "accept my definition of
Christianity." They're not saying you shouldn't make definitions;
they are just saying make them to agree with what they want.
That's dirty pool.
Peter: That's an attempt to appropriate the meaning of words.
Helen: Divisiveness has become a bad word, it's right up there
next to racist. Along that line of definitions, we saw an example
of how using our own definitions is in the air anymore. We were
flipping through a rerun of "Everybody Loves Raymond" and Raymond was
musing that he's not a bad guy, he doesn't go to Church and maybe he's
not perfect, but on the other hand he hasn't killed anyone
lately. He's basically a nice guy, isn't that enough to be
Christian? It seems like a mild example, but he's defined his
Christianity; and if we accept that, who's to say how far the
definition can change? Are we indeed free to define
Christianity to fit our own conscience or convenience?
Jim: I certainly don't believe that. God's truth does not change with the times.
Helen: But isn't Christianity forgiving and compassionate?
Shouldn't we just accept someone who says they're not ready for the
whole thing yet?
Jim: I think we should accept those people. Should we make
them members of our Church? No. The words have gotten very
flaky and mushy. Tolerance and acceptance are perfect
examples. Tolerance means that while I think your ideas are
completely flaky, I'll still be your friend. We can talk
together, go jogging or play tennis together. I'll let you have
your ideas and you'll let me have my ideas and we'll tolerate each
other. That's what the word means. Increasingly, the word
has come to mean that whatever you say or think is just fine with
me. That's not tolerance; that's capitulation. That's not
tolerance; that's an Orwellian strategy on how to use language.
I have friends who are homosexuals - I go out with them, but I still
think their behavior is wrong. They think my assessment of their
behavior is wrong. That's tolerating each other.
Peter: It's like agreeing to disagree, rather than pretending to agree with each other.
Jim: Or insisting that we not disagree.
Helen: My hairdresser is gay and he was always talking about his
'mean' family. He said he wanted them to accept him. I
suggested that they did accept him, but just didn't agree with
him. He went on about how they dislike, not only his gay
lifestyle, but how he spends his money and a number of other
things. I finally asked what acceptance would look like and
he said, they would always agree with him and be happy with whatever he
did. As long as he's happy, they should be happy for him too, no
matter what he did. However, I pointed out, he couldn't do the
same for them and accept them and their ideas as they were. He
was looking for a world that doesn't exist.
Jim: As you pointed out, nobody really believes that everyone will
agree with them all the time. Someone said "your freedom ends
where my nose begins." The problem is, if you come from that kind of
position where everything I do is fine and everybody is fine with
everything I do, there is no reason, in principle, for you to say your
freedom ends where my nose begins. Maybe sentimental, but there
is no principled reason. If I punch you in the nose, tolerance
and acceptance means you think it's just great. But it isn't just
great - it's terrible and I have wronged you.
It is difficult arguing with words that may not be useful in a post
modern era, because words mean anything I want them to mean.
Helen: That brings us to the "living Bible." Shouldn't its interpretation change with the times?
Jim: It seems we have a living Bible, like a 'living'
Constitution. I must relate a post-modern story. When we
were living in the Bay area, there was an article in the San Jose paper
about a woman who was a lesbian, a major leader in feminist and gay
rights movements, and she had a live-in boyfriend. People said to
her doesn't that make you bi-sexual? "Absolutely not!" She said
she was a lesbian with a male boyfriend. So even the word lesbian
doesn't mean anything we can understand anymore. It means
whatever she wants it to mean and tolerance means we have to say that's
fine. That makes the tower of Babel look mild.
Peter: I feel we're skating pretty close to the edge of a
conversational cliff here and if we keep moving in that direction the
sounds coming out of our mouths will just become nonsense. With
that in mind, I feel myself looking around for something solid to hang
onto. I'm glad I found religion to the extent that I have.
Whatever people say to justify their self indulgences is meaningful in
that specific, narrow context, but in comparison to the capital-T truth
- which is true whether anyone knows it or not - then that stuff
doesn't matter. It's how close we can come the real Truth that
will save us. I don't mean to imply that we, ourselves, can attain that
Truth, but I mean to say that we can orient ourselves toward that
Truth. We can love it.
Jim: Part of it is we need to understand, in the Church, that the
ways of communication that worked fine in the 60's through the 90's
just don't work anymore.
Peter: Are you talking about the dissolution of the vocabulary?
Jim: Yes, we need to understand better. I remember in the
70's and 80's we had all these arguments about the empty tomb and the
resurrection. That was the question everyone was asking then, so
we amassed all this information to answer it. Now, we need to
know what the questions of this generation are, and we need to find
ways of answering those questions that they can actually
hear.
I think there are places in the Church where that is going on, but it's
a big project and it's a big study. I notice your Orthodox cross
and I've said for a long time now that, if the Liturgical Churches can
get their ducks in a row, this is their moment. I really believe
that. The mega-Church movement is in large measure a baby-boom
movement. My son is 22 and he has lots of friends who are
traditional Catholics. Someone was telling me he spoke with the
fellow who runs l'Abri in Rotterdam, in secular, secular Holland.
Francis Schaefer started it in Switzerland and this is one of its
branch offices. This fellow who runs l'Abri said kids in Holland
are very interested in Christianity, but they don't want to worship in
a refurbished warehouse with a band. They want to go to the
Cathedral!
Helen: Some Churches have changed their worship services.
If that's OK, why not change the interpretation of the Bible?
Jim: As long as there is nothing in the change of worship that is
contrary to the Bible, then, fine. We believe that, while the
Bible was given through human beings, it was a revelation and inspired
by God. It is an unchanging revelation. We look at the way
Jesus Christ treated the Old Testament and provided for the writing of
the New Testament and we accept the Bible for what it is and accept
Jesus Christ for what he said.
Helen: Let's get into the acceptance of the Old and New Testament
as different books and how we treat them differently. In fact,
one of the arguments we hear about changing the Bible is, "look, no one
believes in stoning anymore, but there it is in the Bible. Why
should we accept everything else it says if we don't accept stoning?"
Jim: There is a distinction made between the moral laws in the
Old Testament and the ceremonial or civil laws in the Old
Testament. We are not God's nation in the way Israel was and
therefore they don't apply. They applied in a certain place at a
certain time. While we can learn from those civil laws, they do
not apply today. The ceremonial laws don't apply because Christ
was crucified. They were the stop-gap solution to a problem that
no longer existed after the resurrection of Christ. However, we
do believe in the moral laws.
Helen: If we take the whole Bible together, there are stonings in
the Old Testament, but also a story in the new Testament where Jesus
stopped a stoning.
Jim: What he really stopped is hypocrisy. Here's a woman
who committed adultery; how could she have done it alone?
Peter: The distinction we're drawing is between a crime and its
punishment. In the old days, adultery was punished by
stoning. We still have the concept that some acts are considered
crimes or sins and deserving of punishment. It's the civil
punishment that has changed, not the crime or sin.
Jim: Right, and you can't read the Old Testament laws the way you
read mandatory minimums. The Old Testament is descriptive, not
prescriptive. It doesn't say, if a kid won't eat his
broccoli, you must absolutely positively stone him to death. No,
it's a description, not a mandate.
Helen: Since we're talking about offenses, a major theme in
Christianity is forgiveness. Unfortunately these days, it seems
if we merely disagree with someone, we've offended them. How do
we reconcile the possibility of having to ask for forgiveness with
speaking out against immoral behavior?
Jim: Forgiveness takes seriously that we sin against God.
The egoism that says everyone is sinning against me, the person
who is offended by every little bump in the road, is thinking about
himself, not God.
Helen: For instance, Peter is wearing a lapel pin with a cross on
it. He's not deliberately trying to offend anyone, but some
people have said they are offended by it. Should he take it
off?
Jim: The same person who says a lapel pin with a cross offends
him may be dressed in a way I find thoroughly unattractive, but isn't
going to change because I'm offended. It's all very one-sided and
it's tied to a victim mentality. It just comes down to people
getting away with it.
Helen: It's more than a one on one problem. We've seen
public monuments torn down because they offended someone; and it's not
only religious monuments, it's even the American flag. Yet, we're
asked to tear them down and also ask forgiveness from the Christian
perspective.
Jim: It's because we take these things seriously. If we're
personally offending people we should probably stop it. However,
we should remember that in the instances you're talking about the
Gospel is an offense, Jesus is the offense, the message is the
offense. You or I are not the offense. I think we should
take that seriously. The early Church, certainly in the first
number of centuries, is a story of Christians giving offense. So,
while I shouldn't intentionally be offensive, if my faith gives
offense, then... too bad. Jesus offended lots of people as
well.
Helen: We often hear the phrase, "do unto others as you would
have them do unto you." Doesn't that just mean, I have my own
rules, you can have yours and let's not bother each other? How
does that work in a society where we all have to live together?
Jim: That's usually taken out of context. One of the
enormous problems we have within our culture is that, we're so
individualistic that it is very difficult to develop an understanding
of